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Today at noon, the mailbox was jarred open by an oversized magazine. Without even looking, I knew my seventeen year old’s ESPN had arrived. I carried the mail into the kitchen, sat it on the counter and went about the business of fixing lunch. As I turned from the pantry, the photo on the front of the magazine caught my eye. For an instant, my mind wondered if it was a playgirl. I picked this edition up and realize indeed it was ESPN even though the front looked like a playgirl center fold. I thumbed through the middle of this edition and as suspected there were photographs of nude individuals. Closing the magazine, I began to formulated how I was going to complain about this edition.
Through a series of events, I was able to get the phone number of Steven Binder who is the VP of Publishing Director. Silently, I prayed for the right words and then dialed this man’s number. After being put on hold by his secretary, I was on the phone with Mr. Binder. Introducing myself, I started sharing concern for the latest edition of their magazine. Stating that I believe these were soft porn photos and in the hands of teen boys, one glance and it could become a life long addiction. This man listened and was polite the entire conversation. He assured me the magazine will not have any nude photos the rest of the year. And as for the 2011 edition of the Body Issue, he would share my concerns with his Editor.
Mr. Binder did point out that ESPN is owned by Disney. Saying I was shocked is an understatement. Doesn’t this bring a whole new dimension to this issue? A Disney magazine with soft porn photos in it!
I also got on Twitter and tweeted my concern. As usual, there were many comments about the art of these bodies and then mixed in were some sexual, rude comments. I had only one person share my concern. I know some of you are thinking, “Come on! It’s the sign of the time!” Perhaps it is. However, that doesn’t mean I have to agree or accept it.
As we have learned this week through the situation with the Military father and Fred Phelps, the Higher Court continues to rule in favor of our First Amendment, regardless of the harassment or disrespect involved. I believe now is the time we as Christian, use our First Amendment rights and speak out against this continual onslaught of pornography. Not in a judging, unloving, uncompassionate, or extremely rude way like Phelps. But in the same characteristics we see in Jesus. Speaking the truth in love to a hurting world.
So, why am I concerned about soft porn in a sports magazine? And what does it really have to do with pornography addiction? Let’s start with the stages of this type of addiction. The five stages of Pornography addiction, taken form the TroubledWith website are:
- Early exposure. Most guys who get addicted to porn start early. They see the stuff when they are very young, and it gets its foot in the door.
- Addiction. Later comes addiction. You keep coming back to porn. It becomes a regular part of your life. You’re hooked. You can’t quit.
- Escalation. After a while, escalation begins. You start to look for more and more graphic porn. You start using porn that would have disgusted you when you started. Now it excites you.
- Desensitization. Eventually, you start to become numb. Even the most graphic, degrading porn doesn’t excite you anymore. You become desperate to feel the same thrill again but can’t find it.
- Acting out sexually. At this point, many men make a dangerous jump and start acting out sexually. They move from the paper and plastic images of porn to the real world.
The above steps confirm to me that just a glaze at an early age can take a person down the path of addiction. (even a glance from the ESPN Magazine) This one glance can have a spiraling effect which takes a man (or woman) down a destructive path. A path which has a strangling effect on individuals and is unraveling families all across our nation. How can we as wives, moms and grandmothers not stand up against this? A few weeks back, I posted about pornography being this generations Goliath and asked who was willing to be David.
Bear with me for just a few more words. I want to share some statistics I have found. From the Internet Filter Review website:
|Pornography Time Statistics|
Those statistics then turn into these: (Taken from Blazing Grace website)
- 47% percent of families said pornography is a problem in their home.
Focus on the Family Poll, October 1, 2003
- * 17% of all women struggle with porn addiction
* 1 of 3 visitors to all adult websites are women
* 9.4 million women access adult websites every month
Internet Filter Review
- * March 20, 2007: At a men’s summit in Oregon before 2,000 men, Shelley Lubben of Shelley Lubben ministries challenged those who were struggling with porn addiction to stand. 30% rose to their feet. She immediately challenged them a second time, with the result that some 70% were standing
- * Out of 81 pastors surveyed (74 males 7 female), 98% had been exposed to porn; 43% intentionally accessed a sexually explicit website
National Coalition survey of pastors. Seattle. April 2000.
I couldn’t agree more with Blazing Grace when they end their statistics with this statement:
Pornography is corrupting the church and destroying our nation; without action the problem will only get worse.
So, who is willing to become a David with me? Where ever you are, whatever you do; are you willing to pull out your smooth stone and take aim against this Goliath that is corrupting the church and destroying our Nation?