We were called by the home health agency to come check on my Mom. By the time we got there, she had been taken into a back room at the local rest home. Initially, she recognized me and cried about what was going on. However, the minute she got her arms around me, she began to “rapid cycle” into someone I didn’t even know. The nurse as well as my husband had to grab her and pull her arms away from me. The only way we could get her under control was sedation and then have her transported by ambulance to the nearest psychiatric hospital.
When I reflect back on those days, I am filled with a mixture of emotions. For four and a half years, I was a part of the Sandwich Generation. The Sandwich Generation is a term used for people who are trying to balance caring for parents while still raising and/or caring for their children. In all honestly, I can’t say I mastered those years. At times, I was torn between needing to be with my family, yet the emergency of my Moms care required me to be else where. On the other hand, now that my Mom is sitting at the feet of Jesus; I am so thankful for those last four years and for the lessons I learned while being her care giver.
I was more fortunate than some “sandwichers,” I have a husband who is a care giver by nature. And when he would step in, it wasn’t because he felt neglected by me but because he knew I needed a break. And rather than push the responsibility off on someone else, he came in and took over when I couldn’t go anymore. During those Sandwich years, I wish I had been able to read the book, Because You Care by Cecil Murphey and Twila Belk. I know it would have given me encouragement on the difficult days. And reassurance I was doing the right thing during days of turmoil.
Because You Care, is a book full of stories from those who have “been there.” They know what it is like to be the care giver for someone you love. The last two chapters are practical suggestions for the care giver. The first is titled, “God’s Strength for Caregivers” and the second is “Because You Can No Longer Cope.”
I highly recommend this book to all who are a care givers, whether you are in the Sandwich Generation or caregiver to a spouse! ~b
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